4/12/07 10:12 pm
hi!
so england is nice. brown bricks and yellow flowers and surprisingly sunny for what england is meant to be like in my head.
my grandparents all got here yesterday. i was expecting huge amounts of tension and weirdness as my grandmother (divorced from grandfather who is here with his wife) has recently become a widow, and it was always civil, but never warm between everyone. it's been better than expected. i just have to ignore a lot of the subtle backstabbing and petty family politics going on.
but far OUT i've never felt so young in my life!
i'm not mid forty-ish like my dad and janet and their siblings, and i'm not late sixties like my grandparents, and i'm not a kid like my brothers or nieces and nephews. so i'm feeling truly out of place for one of the first times in a long time. when all the "adults" are sitting around talking about who's going to be elected the next american president and swapping stories about their children, i find myself with my foot slung up on the chair, fiddling with beads in my bracelet, looking like a 13 year old. it probably doesn't help that my grandmother is still treating me like a child. fair enough, she hasn't seen me in 7 years so i am still a kid in her mind. it's just frustrating to have her keep pulling me on her lap or playing with my hair or whatever. argh!
(and how is she/are they going to cope when i'm making real adult decisions?)
this is a parallel universe. these aren't the family reunions we were attending 10 years ago. and even though everyone is getting along SO well, and i'm sitting here hearing laughter roaring from the kitchen, it just feels kind of wrong. my mum's not here. i'm not little. this isn't the place it's supposed to be.
but of course it's ok. i think this whole ordeal is just making me think about some things for the first time.
oh! what's weird is that my grandfather (dad's dad) married a janet (my grandmother)and had my dad. they got divorced and my grandfather remarried another janet. and now my dad has just married a janet.
so we got a photo of all three janet boltons.
so that's really all i have to say. i miss home incredibly. i love my family, but this is all a little too surreal.